Welcome your pain like a house guest ๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿปโ€โ™‚๏ธ

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Hey there creator,

Can you believe it's almost September already? How fast is this year flying by?

I don't have an essay to share this week as I've been taking a break from work, traveling with my wife and our dog Jackson. ๐Ÿ•

This weeks's edition though is filled with some neat stuff that was shared by some of our readers: ๐Ÿ™

  • First up is this poem by Rumi called "The Guest House" (see below) that was recently shared with me. It really resonated with me because it's about inviting in our darkest emotions rather than running away from them like most of us are conditioned to do. Rumi suggests we welcome our pain like a cherished guest. (hence today's subject line)
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  • An interesting theory on balancing (and excelling) in the different areas of life called The Four Burners Theory
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  • Understanding the three types of laziness from a spiritual perspective by Buddhist teacher Pema Chรถdrรถn.
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  • Lastly, an assessment to determine your "money personality type" by Ken Honda who is an expert in the psychology of money and happiness.

Hope you have a great week. Enjoy the newsletter.


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The Guest House
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Poem by Rumi

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
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A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
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Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if theyโ€™re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
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The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
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Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

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The Four Burners Theory of Self-Development
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Sources: The New Yorker, James Clear, and Chris Guillebeauโ€‹

In the Four Burners Theory, your life is represented as a stove with four burners on it. Each burner symbolizes one major quadrant of your life.

  1. Burner# 1 represents your family. ๐Ÿ‘ช
  2. Burner# 2 represents your friends. ๐Ÿ‘ฌ
  3. Burner# 3 represents your health. ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ
  4. Burner# 4 represents your work.๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿฝโ€๐Ÿ’ป

The theory then says:

In order to be successful, you have to cut off one of your burners. And in order to be really successful you have to cut off two.

This underscores this hard truth: life is filled with tradeoffs.

  • If you want to excel in your career and have a great family life, then your friends and your health may have to suffer.
  • If you want to have great health and be a great parent, then your career ambitions might have to take a backseat.
  • You can divide your time and energy equally among all four burners, but this comes at the cost of never reaching your full potential in any given area.

๐Ÿ‘‰ Do you buy it? ๐Ÿ‘‡

Feel free to share your thoughts and insights as an answer to this Quora Question.โ€‹
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The Three Kinds of Laziness
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Pema Chรถdrรถn | 6 Minutes

  1. Comfort Orientationโ€‹
    This is based on our tendency to avoid inconvenience. We want to make ourselves comfortable and soothe ourselves habitually and in turn, we become jaded and lazy. We seek the quick โ€œupperโ€ and become accustomed to automatic results.
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  2. Loss of Heartโ€‹
    This is when we feel a sense of hopelessness, or โ€œpoor me.โ€ We sit in front of the televiยญsion, eating, drinking, and smoking, mindlessly watching show after show. We canโ€™t bring ourselves to do anything to ventilate our loss of heart.
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  3. โ€œCouldnโ€™t Care Lessโ€โ€‹
    This is characterized by resentment. We are giving the world the finger. Itโ€™s similar to loss of heart but much harder. Loss of heart has some kind of softness and vulnerability. Couldnโ€™t care less is more aggressive and defiant.

Rather than feeling discouraged by laziness, we could get to know our laziness profoundly and allow it to become our personal teacher.

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What is your money personality type?
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โ€‹Ken Honda | 5 Minutes

In his book โ€œHappy Moneyโ€, Ken Honda outlines 7 money personality types: saver, spender, moneymaker, indifferent, saver-splurger, gambler, and worrier.

You can take the short assessment here.

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